stupid.. I feel so horrible.. knowing I caused one of us to cry... I started crying as I read this, I had no idea.. I feel so horrible.. please, we never meant to replace her, we never knew why it ended, just thought it got too big too fast, she was overwhelmed, we took what was written at face value. We never knew her, never knew it was a huge deal, never thought so, didn't think to ask... we just loved the idea, we meant it to be dedicated to her.. never thought... I feel horrible now, so stupid.. I was so excited for it, I only got to participate in one fast (which I joined late too >.<)... and now... I don't know what to think... I don't want to end it.. but.. I feel so bad...
I wish I'd thought to ask....
I didn't know her..
I didn't know..
I've already changed the name and the domain. Fortunately I was on the computer when i saw her post.
ReplyDeleteIt'll be ok. The concept of fasting for causes is a concept as old as religion. We can still do it.. we'll just call it something else.. something that personally I think is more in keeping with the ancient tradition of fasting.
We did mean it to be dedicated to her. She didn't take it as such. So it was changed. If she wants no part in it then of course that is her call.
you should tell her it was dedicated to her! you both should talk to her and clear the waters! i think this has all been a huge misunderstanding and i think she felt very upset that no one bothered to even let her know - almost as if it were a secret.
ReplyDeletemaybe explaining to her what you were trying to achieve is a good idea, si?
i hope you are well,
alice d.
-hugs really tightly- It's a messed up situation. I didn't know why she finished it either 'cause I never got a chance to read that last entry but... please, please try not to be too hard on yourself <3 HFC meant a lot to her and so in the shock of the moment it may not have been apparent that you meant it as an homage, so to speak. But she's such a lovely girl and I'm pretty sure that if yous could just have a wee chat and explain to her what you meant by starting it then... yeah.
ReplyDeleteIf you need an ear or anything, bitemebabyx@yahoo.co.uk
Again, it's a shit situation but nobody's really at fault, y'know? Lots of hurt on both sides but no harmful intentions on either.
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Hi darling, it's me Adeline. Lots to say! Firstly, at least one good thing has come from all this, and that's that I get to follow your blog - I might never have found it otherwise!
ReplyDeleteMost importantly, I want to say that I really love and admire you. You're clearly an absolute sweetheart, and the last thing I would ever want is for you to feel bad about anything.
I know you had all the very best intentions in starting the new blog, I know that! I have absolutely no hard feelings towards you, quite the opposite actually.
Although I was hurt, I didn't (and don't) blame you for that. Does that make sense? It was a blameless hurt. When I saw it, I understood that it was meant to be dedicated to me, and I felt absolutely humbled by that. It was a beautiful idea you had, to carry something on that meant a lot to so many people. Where my sadness lay was in that I felt it was done (without ill intention of course!) behind my back.
With respect, it seems that perhaps Honor Regzig hasn't quite understood where I'm coming from, and I hope one day I can explain myself less clumsily so that she might realise that for me it was never about ownership, or misunderstanding your intentions, or 'wanting no part' but that I was simply faced unexpectedly with the resurrection of something so close to my heart that I had never intended for it to be resurrected.
I truly hope you understand that I would never point the finger, or feel angry, or intentionally upset anyone, just like I know you wouldn't.
So I want to say that I love you, and that I intend to become a very good friend.
Hugs,
Adeline xx